A Surprise wedding? Apparently not, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t more spoilery fun to be had.
So, marry in haste, angst at leisure? It was an intriguing theory. Even though it didn’t pan out you don’t really think that’s going to stop your intrepid bloggers from commenting on it at length do you? First some administrative junk we need to get out of the way.
The New Season 4 Spoilers and Speculation Posts.
In an effort to keep things clean and organized we’re doing some back to school cleanup and consolidation over the next few days. If you visit our highly popular Season 4.0 Spoilers page you’ll eventually notice a few changes. We are now organizing everything by episode to make that page a quick reference guide, and closing the comments for that page. Don’t panic, with 400+ comments and three weeks to the season premier we just thought it was getting a bit unwieldy. We’d never make it through the season. The new spoilers will go into a weekly open thread for reader participation and to keep the comments manageable. In addition we’re hoping to make the site more friendly to the spoilerphobic by confining spoilers and speculation to specific posts rather than having them leak into the reaction posts and reviews. The original spoilers we posted on the season 4 page will be saved in a post called Season 4 Spoilers and Speculation Part 1. Then tune in for new spoilers and speculation after the break.
Now, the shocking wedding that isn’t (maybe)
It’s a plausible strategy for promoting the show. If TPTB had announced that Chuck and Sarah would get married out of the blue, i.e. they just elope at some point, but not tell us when, that keeps the anticipation up. Each and every episode could be the one where Chuck and Sarah just up and marry each other. It also makes some dramatic sense. Chuck and Sarah act impulsively when it comes to each other. They always, as a first instinct, try to be and to give the other what they think the other wants and deserves. Usually without even talking about it. This pattern could easily lead to a hasty, ill-conceived marriage that later requires some adjustments and involves some bumps along the way . It might have been (or maybe still could be) a way to have it both ways. Some relationship angst would be almost inevitable but there would also be a re-assuring sense that they were in it together for the long haul. Kind of like when they threaten to kill off or bunker Chuck. You know it isn’t going to happen but it’s still exciting and thrilling and dramatic to see how everyone handles it.
How Did It Make You Feel?
Assume, for a moment, that Chuck and Sarah are surreptitiously married at about, oh, episode 4 of season 4. Yes, it’s hasty, a surprise even to them, but not out of character. Both Chuck and Sarah have been known to do surprising things on the spur of the moment, never confident, always sure and never, ever second-guessing themselves. Kristin has now said that they are NOT the couple she knows for certain are to be married this season, but she hasn’t said they won’t be, either. Not to the best of her knowledge, or anyone’s for that matter, save maybe the show runners. How does that make you feel?
I have so many questions. Did you secretly (or not so secretly) hope that they would be married so soon? Why is that? Doesn’t that mean, like Kristin suggests, that the end of the show is in sight? Who would want to see past “…and they lived happily ever after”? In the immortal words of Chris Fedak, where’s the fun in that? And didn’t you fear that Chuck and Sarah were being too impetuous – again? – that they deserved something better than a quickie ceremony officiated by an Elvis impersonator in a Las Vegas chapel, and that we were in for nothing but much more unnecessary angst if they did?
Yeah, me neither. I thought it would be perfectly great if they impetuously, secretly, slyly and romantically made it official and tied the proverbial knot.
But then again, hang on a minute. Does this mean that Chuck and Sarah are still lying to friends and (now) family? Really? Haven’t they both grown out of that yet? And what about the desire expressed by both of them about wanting a normal life??? How does a secret, clandestine marriage further that or any other goal? Hum? Not much, I say.
I detect a pattern here. Time and again Chuck and Sarah overcame the biggest obstacles the universe could throw at them just to be together. Love it; it’s been fun. Yet, the biggest thing ever standing in their way was – themselves. Chuck took forever to actually believe Sarah’s words – the ones that spoke of him being a hero already. Insecurities out the wazoo. Sarah took just as long to admit that there were some things she couldn’t fix, and lower herself to ask for help. Pride, much? Both of them are still less than candid with others who are important to them, and both are still working on their final answers to the questions “Who are you?” and “What do you want?” Can we say they are ready for a lifetime together yet?
Well, maybe. They are quick learners, after all. They make mistakes (sigh – oh, have they made mistakes!). But seldom have they made the same one twice.
Forget the fun-awkward process of meeting someone and dating. I’m at the point where the deeper truths about life and love, living with someone for a lifetime and coming to terms with myself and my own limitations are glaring issues every day, and I wouldn’t mind seeing a show – Chuck and Sarah – traversing that with the joy and sensitivity we’ve seen up to now. To my eyes, Chuck and Sarah are heading more and more in that direction every day, and a wedding in a Las Vegas chapel is the kind of thing those two always try – once. Then they correct themselves. And to paraphrase Mahatma Ghandi, then they win.
I for one am good either way. I would like an early season 4 engagement to be sure, but whether or not our favorite couple ties the knot immediately-I’m neutral. Why, you ask? I know, I’m a huge shipper! One would think I would be all over the marriage aspect like a fat kid on candy. My perspective is that they need to know one another. Chuck and Sarah developed an intimacy early on and that is what drew me in and held my attention. Then we had the season of dismay, with hurt feelings blocking truths-truths that each had to come to realize. Now that we have gotten that out of the way, and have, uh…conquered physical intimacy…we still have two people who had idealized visions of a relationship. I agree that they are both impulsive and their motives are genuine for the other person. It is time now to grow together and figure out what they want. I’ve long advocated for Real vs. Normal, and I think the last few episodes of S3 have both Chuck and Sarah realizing that Normal isn’t for them.
One tweet I saw from someone who visited the set (I’m sorry, I’m not sure who or where I saw it) basically summarized the idea of all the conversations you should have before you get married. You know, one of those books of intimate questions that help you navigate where you and your beloved stand on a myriad of issues. I think that is the way the writers should go. Whether or not they are married, Chuck and Sarah need to really know the other. Kind of like the game they played in Wookie. Throw in the fact that Ellie may not like that her future sister-in-law is a spy and the second guessing that would naturally come from that revelation would lead to back story revelations that would advance the story. I think if they go this route of exploration, rings or not, they would always come back to the validation that they love and chose each other, despite natural insecurities and human foibles. So wedding ring or not, they need to be having these conversations. And maybe Chuck will finally play Arcade Fires first album for Sarah-after all, I think she’s ready.
Dave’s thinking…..stop that!
I’m a big fan of marriage. And terribly old fashioned as well. I still think if you’re sleeping with someone you ought to be married to them. I also am very comfortable with how well and deeply they know each other. I do hope we see an actual engagement period, but it doesn’t need to be overly long. Just long enough to generate a little media buzz. I’m really not into the current idea of how well you need to know someone before tying the knot; and I know it has been shown that living together first as a “trial run” or whatever actually makes divorce more likely. I know as historic fact that engagements have typically been much shorter (like a few weeks) and came sooner in a relationship (like in a few weeks or months). I’m not even talking about arranged marriages, this was as recently as 50 years ago. Divorce rates were lower and it was accepted “Love is not a feeling its an act your will” (Don Francisco, 1982). Okay, now that I’ve annoyed or alienated a majority of our readers, I’m not trying to tell anyone what to do. But I like where Chuck and Sarah are at, and think its time they take the next step. I see no reason to see it as “the end is in sight.” Shows like Office, Friends, and Get Smart have had marriages among major characters well before the intended end. And even in this format we’ve seen successful stories involving married characters from Thin Man, to Hart to Hart, to the upcoming Undercovers. I strongly believe promoting this element would win back some of the viewers we lost last season, and generate a lot of excitement and media hype for a few weeks leading up to it. I guess that comes down to, I like the idea for reasons internal and external to the show.
Amy, Dave, Ernie & Joe